– Hey everybody, today we’re gonna talk about personality disorders
and how they differ, or maybe don’t, from mental illnesses. But, before we get into that, are you new to my channel? Welcome. I put out videos on
Mondays and on Thursdays, so make sure you’re subscribed and have those notifications turned on so you don’t miss out. First, let’s start by defining the terms. I’ve been mentioning
this in videos recently because I think it’s really important that we define terms prior
to talking about them. So, let’s start by defining
a personality disorder. Now, it’s defined as a deeply ingrained and maladaptive pattern of behavior of a specific kind. It typically manifests by the time one reaches adolescence, and it causes long-term difficulties in personal relationships or
in functioning in society. Without treatment, the
behavior and experience is inflexible and usually long-lasting. Now, the pattern is seen in
at least two of these areas. One, in our way of thinking
about oneself and others. Two, in our way of responding emotionally to those around us. Three, our way of
relating to other people, or four, in our way of
controlling one’s behavior. I also think it’s important to note that personality disorders are categorized into three main groups. The first group is called Cluster A, which holds a personality disorder that can cause us to act odd or socially withdrawal from others. This includes Paranoid
Personality Disorder, Schizoid, and Schizotypal
Personality Disorders. The second is Cluster B, and this holds the emotional, erratic, or overly-dramatic personality disorders, like Antisocial, Borderline, Histrionic, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. And the third and final
cluster, Cluster C, holds the more anxious or
fearful personality disorders, like Avoidant, Dependent,
or Personality Disorder. Now that we’ve defined what the term personality
disorder really means, let’s talk about the term, mental illness. Now, mental illness refers to a wide range of mental health conditions. These are disorders that affect your mood, thinking, and behavior. Therefore, mental illness
is a collective term that refers to around 200
types of mental conditions, which are sub-categorized
into five main classes. The first is anxiety disorders, the second, mood disorders, third, psychotic disorders
or Schizophrenia, fourth, eating disorders,
and the fifth, Dementia. Now, among all the groups, anxiety disorders are the
most common mental illness, just in case you weren’t aware. Obviously, many people
have mental health concerns from time to time, but
a mental health concern becomes a mental illness
when ongoing signs and symptoms cause frequent stress and affect our ability to function. After understanding the
definition of each term, I think it’s easy to conclude that a personality disorder
is a mental illness, but it’s a very serious one. And the reason that I
say it’s a serious one is because personality
disorders are pervasive, they’re not episodic. Do you remember the video
I did a long time ago about Bipolar Disorder versus BPD, and how the difference is
that Bipolar Disorder’s more episodic, right, it
comes and goes in episodes? But BPD, Borderline Personality Disorder, is more pervasive, it hangs around a lot. Personality disorders overall have been in our lives since we were young and it can affect much
of our day-to-day life, not to mention, our relationships. Now, many people argue that the causes of personality disorders differs from other mental health issues, but I honestly think
that’s it’s too tricky of a thing to conclude. Different people have
different coping skills and resiliency, and that’s why siblings can go through the same things and come out very differently. We are all unique, and our mental health is not immune from that. That’s why it’s important
that we see a professional and be properly diagnosed
so that we can get the treatment that works
best for our struggles. This video has been brought to you by the Kinions on Patreon. If you would like to support the creation of these mental health videos, click the link in the description and check it out. Know that regardless of
what you’re suffering from, the sooner we reach out for help and get the assistance
we need, the better. All mental illnesses benefit
from therapy and medication, so find a treatment
that works best for you, and we will keep working together towards and healthy
mind and a healthy body, and I will see you next time. Bye.

Author Since: Mar 11, 2019

  1. Hi Kati. The last couple of weeks my depression and suicidal thougts have been getting alot worse. I do my best to fight the bad thougts but i know i should be hospitalized. The problem is that i got a cat a few months ago and i don't have anyone who can take care of her, so i find myself lying to my doctor that im getting better so that he won't hospitalize me. I do have better healthy copingskills know so i feel like im not going to do anything bad but i feel really stuck and hopeless. Do you have any tips on how i can get better when i don't have the energy to do anything becsuse it just feel pointless without me getting hospitalized? Love from sweden❤

  2. Nice video, very informative.
    I finished my Acquired Brain Injury presentation in psychology, I’m so glad.

  3. I have a personality disorder that causes other mental illnesses (yes, they're all diagnosed — go yell at someone else, people!)

  4. I have Avoidant Personality Disorder. And the scary thing about it is that AvPD doesn't feel like an illness.
    It's so deeply internalised that you don't assume you're ill. "It's just who I am."
    After 10 months of rehab I finally have my life back in my own hands and more importantly know how to keep it that way.
    After 8 years of not being able to live the life I wanted I'm finally on my own track again.

    I just want to stress how important it is to get help. Especially AvPD is something that's impossible to treat on your own. To avoid the spiral of fear you have to meet with friends face to face regularly. And having a therapist to guide you through hard times and/or relapse is worth so so much.

  5. Great video, Kati! I read a lot about mental health but I had never thought about this. Interesting point to bring up! Now I feel better equipped to answer questions about both mental illnesses and personality disorders (I get those a lot, though I'm not even a Psychology major yet, haha). Thank you for sharing! Love your channel!

  6. Katie, I have maybe only two video idea requests. Just not sure where I can message you them? I don't have Patreon.

  7. Is BPD a mood disorder? Because I was misdiagnosed with bipolar and physician assistant changed it to mood disorder. I only had medication induced mania from bipolar meds. They wouldn't believe me until I finally got off the meds. I do have BPD, aniexty, PTSD clinical depression. Thanks for helping me with this. Because I was thinking about getting reevaluated. I cannot take those medications and I'm worried that if I had a breakdown again they would try to give me those meds again. They induced mania and phycosis excuse my spelling.

  8. how long before a therapist could reasonably diagnose a personality disorder in a new patient?

  9. every one has a deeply ingrained and maladaptive pattern of behavior like, accent ,food likes ,preferred environment, and erratic hand moment to reinforce speech,, i presume by maladaptive you mean unable to prevent & ingrained aware of a behavior, some book qualify intelligent as being able to relearn behavior & distinguish between desired and undesired behaviors , or anti social and social behaviors,

  10. Hi Kati, thank you for the videos you put out, I find them quite helpful. I’m in need of advice and thought this might be a good topic. My parents have recently split and my mother is already seein someone else (3 days after breaking up with my dad). I love with my Mum and someone else in the picture wasn’t what I signed up for when we decided to move in together. The guy my mum is seeing is around all the time and I’m finding it extremely difficult to cope with it right now, I’ve been in recovery for over a year now but this is making have set backs, my Mum seems to have the attitude that she doesn’t care what others think and even cancels plans with me to spend time with him. She thinks that I should just get over it and move on with my life but it’s difficult as I’m exposed to the situation on a daily basis, any help or advice is extremely helpful. I have tried speaking to her about but it’s like she won’t listen. Thanks again

  11. Hey Kati, i know the DSM is the main reference for some psychiatrists for diagnosis and maybe unified tratement reasons….but its ofen criticised for sitgmatizing and labeling people as "mentally ill", and not looking out for ethnicity not sexual or gender identities…so its very limitied in that area. What do you think about this? The WHO and many many profesionals in the mental heal area have talked about this and also have offered different positions about the effects that has the DSM on society, taking in account aswell the huge economial impact that this has (health mongering). Check out this new therapeutic tool: https://www1.bps.org.uk/system/files/user-files/Division%20of%20Clinical%20Psychology/public/INF299%20PTM%20overview%20web.pdf

    Keep up the good work, and sorry for the bad english. Greetings from Spain!

    (i posted this in an older video, maybe here will be better viewed and answered)

  12. I think I have all those four symptoms (areas) but I don't feel like it's something severe. I mean I'm just fine despite having problems with not knowing who I really am. :/ do I make sense?

  13. If some people can be more resilient to these things than others, then perhaps one can teach others to be as resilient just as they were conditioned to be more anxious than natural.

  14. Is learning about the history of human progress up to the present generally a net benefit to human sanity? xP

  15. I really hope you see this as I have a question about a degree in psychology. My plan was to get my BA from a local school to save money and then my MA at a higher ranked program. But through research, most colleges near me have you go right to a doctorate program where I'd take my GRE and apply for phds right out of my BA. Not sure if this is how it was for you/if you know about this as its apparently new. I'm only out of high school for two years and just saw this change. But I'm a bit confused as it obviously changes my plan.

  16. This was very very interesting. I get so focused on my own anxiety and just mental illness in general that I forget that personality is a whole other thing. It’s so complicated. I especially liked what you said about siblings, it’s so true that they can turn out so differently from each other. Great video!

  17. Will you please do a video responding to the show Atypical? I watched it recently and discussed with my therapist how I was angry at the portrayal of talk therapy. I wonder what you think about it.

  18. hi kati. ive been diagnosed having a mmajor depressive disorder and now i push people away and suddenly cry cos i feel so isolated.. am i having a borderline personality disorder? sighs.. thanks if you read this

  19. OCPD here, a very clear video. I find when I have a lot on that it gets a lot worse which doesn't help as I'm just getting busier and busier

  20. Hi Kati, do you think you would ever do a side channel which isn't mainly directed for those with a mental illness/ in therapy etc? A side channel aimed towards those training to be a therapist etc where you use more jargon and more "in depth" (not saying you aren't thorough in your videos, haha). I understand you aren't a lecturer/ tutor but you have the experience and often hearing first hand is helpful. I hope this makes sense, I feel like I'm babbling. Anyway, great video as always. Have a beautiful day?

  21. hi, just been told that i am no longer diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia but have anxious, dependent personality traits, i dont understand this, please help

  22. I'm so scared. I never want to be around people; I always just want to be alone. Yet at the same time I always have the strange urge to be hugged/held- not in a romantic way, just to feel like I'm cared for. Sometimes I feel completely disconnected from other people and that's part of the reason I want to be alone. I can't bring myself to put on a mask to make it seem like I care when sometimes it feels like I don't care about anything anymore. I also feel disconnected in the sense that nothing feels real sometimes. Sometimes I don't even feel embarrassed when I say something dumb anymore because I don't really think it matters anymore (that's saying a lot because I am the type of person to get embarrassed really easily. Last night I had my first panic attack in a long time. It came so unexpectedly.
    I also think I might have an eating disorder and I'm so scared.
    It started so suddenly a few months ago and I can't seem to stop until it hurts or feels really uncomfortable.
    Every time I go into my kitchen I feel tired because I know I'm going to start eating, and I won't be able to stop for a long time even though I just want the pain to stop.
    I feel so alone. I don't know what to do.
    I had a major depressive episode over a year ago and I told myself i would never let it get that bad again (my regular period stopped coming for three months, my hair started to fall out (I believe these were symptoms of the anxiety and depression))and it hasn't gotten that bad to where I got to the point of wishing I'd never wake up again. But not it feels like a different type of bad, where it isn't about making myself do something (like get out of bed, get through the day), but about trying to stop myself from doing something (losing control- eating too much, not feeling like myself, feeling disconnected from everyone around me).
    I'm so confused and I'm so scared. I'm so alone

  23. Hey, Kati! What’s your thoughts on moving to another state from your former therapist 3 years ago and you have been alright with your anxiety and depression up until now and are wanting to go back to seeing her but over Skype because of the distance? I’ve tried therapists in the current state I live in now, but i’m just having too hard of a time trying to find the right one… My former therapist is willing to Skype, but do you think it would be as effective? Love your videos by the way! Super helpful! ?

  24. Hey Kati! I recently told my closest friend about my self harm. It took me a really long time to get the courage to tell him and when I did he freaked out. He kept telling me to stop doing it but its not that easy, so it makes me want to cut more. I had stopped cutting for a few days before I told him and now I'm cutting again. We haven't talked since and he has tried to call me and act like everything's fine but im really hurt. He's pretty much my only close friend so I don't like ignoring him but he really hurt me and I can't just let it go like it seems that he can. I really don't want to lose his friendship but I don't know how to fix it.

  25. Does "personality organization" mean the same thing as "personality disorder" or what is the difference?

  26. Follow up question – where do conditions like ADHD, autism, and any other neurodiverse conditions fall? I feel like they can contribute to other mental illnesses – especially if they are not diagnosed- but while I can imagine a “me” that isn’t suffering from from depression or anxiety, ADHD (and maybe ASD) traits are such a part of me that I can have trouble understanding neurotypical folks.

  27. Hey Kati, I am so glad I found your channel- you're videos are so helpful and encouraging for me!
    I have a question though. I have been seeing a therapist for a few months now (I think 5 sessions) for mainly anxiety/panic and depression. However , ever since I've started going I've felt my depression increase to an all time high. I literally feel down all the time and breakdown in tears everyday, sometimes multiple times a day. I especially feel down for the first few days after a session… I absolutely love my therapist and I do not think she is doing anything wrong, but I was just wondering if you had any thoughts/experience with this??

  28. Hi I’m 15, and I’ve been watching some of your videos because I’m trying to understand mental illness more. My brother struggles with depression and i feel like I might have it too. I seem to fit every symptom of depression but I’m too scared to seek any help because that kind of attention makes me uncomfortable and i feel like I won’t be taken seriously or they will think I’m faking. I have a question, on a brain scan will a chemical imbalance always be shown? Like if someone has depression will their brain scan always look off, is it possible for someone with depression to have a normal brain scan?

  29. Hello I love your videos and always support it
    I have a question please
    During the period of psychotherapy what should? or what I can do? specially is long time I am making psychoanalysis so in order change my behavior sometime I go to the extreme do you have any tips

  30. Hi Katie, I have recently been reading a lot about being A highly sensitive person, rather than a mental illness it seems to be just part of who are. I really identify with being a highly sensitive person. I have recovered from a bad depression but still have some anxiety and crazy fluctuating moods but I'm thinking it might just be part of my personality. Could you do a video on being a higly sentive person?

  31. Have you ever looked at the correlation between sleep apnea and BPD, and or type 2 bipolar ? Would be interested to hear your thoughts on that.

  32. Could you perhaps make a video talking about BPD and accountability? I’ve been struggling trying to find the correct way to handle the (verbal) abuse I get from my brother. I don’t want to believe that I have to just accept it, with no accountability for his actions on his part. It seems almost like enabling the behavior, even though I know it’s the illness talking. It’s just. Agh. It’s hard. I love him, but he treats me terribly 90% of the time. I don’t know what to do.

  33. Hey Katie, I have a question about anxiety/depression. I have been seeing a psychologist for a few months for anxiety and throughout this time I have filled out 3 depression, anxiety and stress score sheets. On every occasion my depression score has been high to severe. I do feel the symptoms of depression; however, I don't feel the way I imagined a depressed person would feel. My question is, is it possible I am more depressed than I think I am, and if so is this dangerous?

  34. Can you please do a video on how stress and mental illness can affect appetite? I find that a lot of time I just don't eat for days when I'm feeling stressed or anxious. Tips on how to fix that?

  35. Thank you. So many dramatic women claim to have been Borderline "their whole life" when you can't have this disorder in childhood. It comes from a bad childhood.

  36. I have to just say , I like ur videos, and u are a very beautiful soul, and just a beautiful woman that's very intelligent

  37. Hi Katie I would like to get in touch with you. I had a very rare M.I during pregnancy that no one knew how to properly treat. It was hell and I want to help raise awareness in the mental health community for other pregnant women struggling.

  38. I really believe it's important to understand what's going on, and after studying a lot, I could never tell the difference. I have struggled with quiet BPD, and the hardest part is that there's no breathing moment. You have to be aware of your feelings and reactions all the time and make it a habit. Thanks to mindfulness I've realized I stop breathing whenever I start feeling anxious, and the sensations I have from stop breathing worsens the cicle. Learning how to tell the difference between personality disorder and mentall illness is gonna help me A LOT. Thank you so much for the effort of making that and other things so clear. Could you make a video talking about attention disorders? I felt so bad for forgetting about starting my classes ( I'm a teacher ) and other serious stuff, as if I didn't care enough, but understanding my attention problems through How to ADHD made me realize it wasn't a carachter flaw and finding coping mechanisms. Love, Mario ❤

  39. It has recently been suggested that I might have emotionally unstable personality disorder (aka borderline)…but I disagree. I think that although I fit the criteria for eupd, rather it is caused by a combination of depression, PMDD, and trauma. My problem is this: if I accept the diagnosis of eupd, there is help available to me on the NHS, but I don't qualify for trauma therapy. So do I take a label I don't agree with in order to get the help I definitely need???

  40. I see this question often on Quora. I think people with PDs want to believe they aren't mental illnesses. Speaks also to the stigma in our society that prevents people from getting help.

  41. I think in the cluster C there should not be antisocial personality disorder, but obsessive PD (the OCPD is missing in the video).

  42. I don't even have the fucking money to get diagnosed. And parents don't care. They aren't bad people but they just don't see it. They just see me as annoyed and lazy

  43. I love you so much Katie I would sell my soul to have an angel like you to be my therapist? you are seriously the definition of perfection! Literally beautiful inside & out. I love you so much all of your advice brings awareness that is heaven sent. I really do, Love you. Lol. Thank you.

  44. Hey Katie i love your channel i think it is really important thing to talk about mental illness and also because i think a lot of people ignore and doesn`t talk about it and that is why they do not understand it!

  45. My understanding is that mental illness has a biological cause, and personality disorders result from childhood trauma. But I've been wrong before………

  46. Katie I have depression and anxiety and BPD I am nearly fourty years old why do I feel like a child in a man's body

  47. why do I think that TYT is grandfathered into vidcon and since nobody will help me is this just wishful thinking or did I watch a vlogbrothers video about it and can't find it again

    thx for this ha bisky vid I loved this so much

  48. Hey Kati ?

    Trial begins on the 30th July ? but I'm ready ?

    Great video and very helpful – thank you ?

  49. Hi I want to ask about something. I hope you can help.

    I eversince u can remember have had a problem showing emotion or gratitude. I feel it's embarrassing. I can show it with pple not my family (mainly because my family has a different back ground emotionally and its different in how they show emotion)and I have grown up in a different environment and how emotion is expressed. My question is do you know what's wrong with me?
    I have feelings and emotion but it's a bit hard to express it like gratitude or apologizes. I am shy to show it with family unlikr with others and sometimes seen as ungrateful etc please help.I just want to know myself so I can tell or try to tell family so they may know me and understand .I tried going to a school counsoler but they said I just need to develop communication skills

  50. I wish I could sit down and talk with you for a couple hours and see what kind of diagnosis you would come to. I've been diagnosed with bipolar disorder by everyone I've seen, but I still can't help but question it sometimes. A lot of the symptoms I can see on the depressive side of it, and the manic side I could agree with many years ago, but I don't have manic episodes like I used to, and sometimes if I'm having them it might take me a while to even recognize it, whereas 10 years ago I could recognize it immediately. My mind is an absolute mess and it's definitely taking a toll on me physically as well.

  51. I've found that being labelled with a personality disorder in the real world is often a way tell someone that they are "too hard" to treat and a way to get rid of them. There is a great deal of blaming the person with the personality disorder. It's not like something I wanted, like an ice cream, so I don't know why I am being blamed for it. Personality disorders CAN be treated but a lot of it depends on finding the right therapist and treatment.

  52. Any idea why I feel uncomfortable when people are really nice to me? Especially my father. I just feel like it’s easier on me emotionally if he isn’t, but I can’t understand why

  53. The nurse practitioner that I see at the mental health clinic. She hates the term personality disorder/s. She and I believe that there's far more to it than just some annoying "bad" traits.

  54. I love your videos and can't wait until the next one. But, I was hoping you would have the time to go through in more depth personality disorders. I will research your other videos and see if there is one there. Thank you. ❤

  55. Thank you so much for doing this video. I’ve been told so many times that my personality disorder (BPD) isn’t a mental illness and it’s so validating and refreshing for a professional to say it is.

  56. They say it’s just your personality that’s on the tail end of a normal spectrum. Well, I am bipolar. Is my mania on the end of the happiness scale? Is my depression on the tail end of the sadness scale? Is it that simple? Everything that’s not mental wellness or baseline is mental illness. If it hurts. Is schizophrenia on the tail end of intuition and accurate hearing? I mean, hearing is processed differently, Intuition is normal, sometimes it’s right, sometimes it’s wrong and we all have some form of magical thinking whether we know it or not. Is paranoia on the end of a vigilance scale Maybe.That’s what superstitions are about and no one is really free of them whether they know it or not. So what’s not on the tail end of some normal spectrum and why wouldn’t intensity cause distress at some level? Is OCD just worry and carefulness carried out to the extreme? How about anxiety? I mean, we can frame anything anyway we want but if it hurts, it hurts At the end of the day and if it makes us sick, that’s pretty intense. Right?

  57. This video made the subject so clear. I understand the definition of "mental illness" and what that label covers so much better. Thx Kati.

  58. I like that you're as objective as possible. Too often people just throw terms around that they don't clearly define or understand and go off anecdotes or personal biases

  59. I Have BPD and I hate the illness i hate it so much whenever i see a profrwssional most of them just judge me and think im a horrible attention seeker because of my diagnosis

  60. I kind of feel like I'm a narcissist but I'm not sure. I don't know if it's because of my bipolar or what

  61. i always get kind of suspicious about these kind of videos, particularly because i've tried to research a lot about bpd over the years in an attempt to understand myself better, and more often than not the information i find is very stigmatizing – usually saying that people with personality disorders are inherently manipulative, sociopathic or just plain toxic, so i'm glad that i found this channel. i wish i'd had this kind of level-headed and actually informative content when i was younger, would've saved me a lot of self-hatred.

  62. Literally have one from each of these categories
    In cluster A; I have paranoid disorder most likely but haven't looked that far into that one yet
    Cluster B; I have bpd borderline personality disorder
    And cluster C; I have avoident personality disorder
    Is this possible cause i know they say you can have more then one I also suffer from anxiety as well as depression but haven't quite figured out which depressive disorder i suffer from mainly my anxiety disorders are social but can be fears like tight clothing elevator hieghts mainly just people though

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